The Decline of Intimacy and Relationships in Japan

[Ito 2438]

Why have young people in Japan stopped having sex? - The Guardian

This article touched on something that really scares me about Japan...when people start thinking that relationships are too much work and they "can't be bothered." 

 

Just read the article if you want to be scared about Japan as well XD

Thoughts?

[Zeus 7997]

Live at home until you're 30 with Mom and Dad because you can't afford to buy a house? Exam hell? Finally get your job as a salaryman and work overtime routinely because it's expected of you to do so, to the point where there's a term associated with "death by overwork"? All this happening in a country with one of the highest suicide rates and one of the highest depression rates?
 
I can't imagine why no one my age in Japan is obsessed with sex. They're all too busy trying to survive and do what's expected of them.

[nullmoon 784]

It's really quite shocking. For a country that's so technologically advanced, Japan is incredibly backwards when it comes to its society. Obviously being traditional is commendable, but it isn't the 50s any more. Sex isn't bad any more!

Having actual loving relationships and being encouraged to make the most of life should be mandatory. Easier said than done in a country like Japan, but if it's true that we only live once, it shouldn't be spent behind a desk. People should work to live and not live to work.

[usuxorz 30]

A while back I read an article that said the Japanese census reported there were more pets than children under the age of 15. I know that if I couldn't have a man to cuddle, I too would definitely have a cat to pamper.

[Thedane 176]

Surprisingly depressing to read. I know it can be hard to find the time, but that's my motivation to work my ass off.. to have time/money to spend with that special someone.

[nekkichi 6042]

It's really quite shocking. For a country that's so technologically advanced, Japan is incredibly backwards when it comes to its society. 

idk what you're talking about, they didn't invent those tenga eggs by being technologically or socially backwards.

[Shmilly 519]

I don't think that's the complete picture. Yes, overwork and suicide are common, women are choosing a working lifestyle, and saving face is one of the biggest problems(?) with Japanese culture. But having now been here for over a month staying in a university dorm I would beg to differ. The younger generation is coming out of that rut and while showing affection in public is still pretty rare, I would say that a majority of the Japanese students in the dorm are in a committed relationship, and they're all aged 18-22 or so. Because it's an international dorm a couple of them are actually dating foreigners, even after they returned to their home country. Hell, I even started dating a Japanese girl last week. So don't think it's all doom and gloom for Japan, in the next 50 years or so I expect the more open-minded younger generations to start making a change on the country's public image.

[Furik 832]

They just need to go on Match.com can't be that hard.

[LIDL 692]

they lie tbh.

It's because that size is not enough.

Them Japanese women be getting gaijin D.

Betta deal.

[clear1985 5]

I'm Japanese. I haven't read the article, but I've heard something like that. Been overseas for the last couple of years, so I don't really know exactly what's going on there.

 

I'm 28, I grew up in Kanto, from my experience, Japanese in my generation lose their virginity too early, like most of them lose it in middle school. Some of my friends even got pregnant in middle school. They chose to have an abortion.

 

When I told my German friend about this, he told me that most Germans lose it at almost the same time. So, I'm not sure if that's early or not, but in my book that's early.

 

Maybe most of you are from the USA or Europe or something. You may not know about it. So, I'd like to point out that this is a common issue in Asian countries. I believe Japanese women are the least conservative women at least in Asia or "east" Asia[Japan, Korea, China]. You guys may say that's not true, you may say like you've dated a Vietnamese girl, and it was awesome. Of course, there are exceptions, but those who want to hang out with foreigners are liberal in the first place. You can't generalize it.

 

At least, Chinese are not like THAT. I know very well because I have to deal with them everyday. They are square, uptight I say. For me, It is just easier to get laid in Japan, while it's extremely hard here in China unless I pay for it. I don't reveal my identity here in priciple BTW, I always pretend to be an American for my safety's sake. Been here almost a year, never gotten laid TBH. Time to leave this country. LOL

 

Anyways, I highly doubt that Japanese are not interested in sex. Of course they ARE. All they think about is sex, however; like some others have pointed out, Japan is extremely structured, and people are judgmental, which makes things difficult.

 

Japanese society has a lot of problems obviously...

[Nyasagi 259]

Japanese people should date foreginers from Europe or North America, then . Our culture is less structured, haha. Judgemental? Well, people are judgemental everywhere, so it's nothing surprising.

[The Bread Wolf 231]

I BLAME HENTAI 'N' SHIT. PEOPLE IN JAPAN EXPECT BIG BOOBS AND TINY WAISTS AND FACE-SIZED EYES AND GRAVITY-DEFYING HAIR.

 

Cartoon porn sets too high standards for women who want to have sex in dark under the covers in missionary position in all silence.

[Biopanda 2675]

If JAVs have taught me anything, not a single Japanese woman has ever had sex without sounding like she's being murdered, so the silence thing is out.

[Nyasagi 259]

I don't understand all these childish moans of Asian girls, that's not even attractive to me (I'm not straight) o_O. Asian guys - yes, I like them a lot. Asian girls - no no no. Too childish, too cutesy.

[clear1985 5]

I BLAME HENTAI 'N' SHIT. PEOPLE IN JAPAN EXPECT BIG BOOBS AND TINY WAISTS AND FACE-SIZED EYES AND GRAVITY-DEFYING HAIR.

 

Cartoon porn sets too high standards for women who want to have sex in dark under the covers in missionary position in all silence.

 

LMAO, nothing but a fallacy! Come on, clearly not every Japanese likes Hentai! TBF, very few Japanese like Hentail for real. Cartoon porn or something as you put. Hentai Japanese account for less than 1 percent of the total population seriously. Come on!!!

 

I don't understand all these childish moans of Asian girls, that's not even attractive to me (I'm not straight) o_O. Asian guys - yes, I like them a lot. Asian girls - no no no. Too childish, too cutesy.

 

LOL. You just made an argument against the fact that Asian men are unpopular.

 

http://schemamag.ca/2011/06/24/asian_men_unpopular_in_interne/#.U9ZWBbGc5JN

[Nyasagi 259]

clear, there are girls who are really into Asian men, just look at the visual kei fans. Look at tumblr. People often reblog photos, just because there's an Asian person on them XD. Just because someone on the internet says something, it doesn't mean it's true. You just have to find the right group of people. I know girls who get attracted to the type of men I wouldn't even look at, many girls, they like manly, muscled guys... I don't. It really depends on the personal taste and the guy too, of course. There are more and less attractive people everywhere (but I know girls who would date just anyone, because he's Asian... maybe except old men, lol). I wouldn't have a chance with Asian men, though, because I'm not skinny and all these Asian girls look so pretty D:

 

It's interesting to know that most Japanese men don't like hentai, actually. Japan is known abroad for the weird porn XD. How can you explain that stuff? Do people film it as a joke? The octopus porn, for example? Because I can't imagine someone may get turned on by this... it rather looks funny to me.

[nullmoon 784]

Isn't the whole tentacle thing based on some superstition/myth about people living on the coast....?

Vague, I know XD

[The Bread Wolf 231]

LMAO, nothing but a fallacy! Come on, clearly not every Japanese likes Hentai! TBF, very few Japanese like Hentail for real. Cartoon porn or something as you put. Hentai Japanese account for less than 1 percent of the total population seriously. Come on!!!

 

Aww come on, sweetiepie. It was a joke. 

[Karma’s Hat 3107]

clear what r ur favorite visual kei bands

[nekkichi 6042]

LOL. You just made an argument against the fact that Asian men are unpopular.

 

http://schemamag.ca/2011/06/24/asian_men_unpopular_in_interne/#.U9ZWBbGc5JN

judging by what I c here in vancouver, rich asian men get both (white) pussay & (white) d.

I am not sure if they resort to dating websites though

[clear1985 5]

clear, there are girls who are really into Asian men, just look at the visual kei fans. Look at tumblr. People often reblog photos, just because there's an Asian person on them XD. Just because someone on the internet says something, it doesn't mean it's true. You just have to find the right group of people. I know girls who get attracted to the type of men I wouldn't even look at, many girls, they like manly, muscled guys... I don't. It really depends on the personal taste and the guy too, of course. There are more and less attractive people everywhere (but I know girls who would date just anyone, because he's Asian... maybe except old men, lol). I wouldn't have a chance with Asian men, though, because I'm not skinny and all these Asian girls look so pretty D:

 

It's interesting to know that most Japanese men don't like hentai, actually. Japan is known abroad for the weird porn XD. How can you explain that stuff? Do people film it as a joke? The octopus porn, for example? Because I can't imagine someone may get turned on by this... it rather looks funny to me.

 

LOL Like you said, the answer to your question depends on the individual. Only a very few people are crazy about Hentai that seems to turn them on. There are cetainly demands for "specific goods" always. Who likes the Human Centipede for real? And yet, they were able to make a sequel. LOL "Specific goods." Hentai is one of them. Japan is a free country when it comes to porn because Japan is rigidly and extraordinary structured, so people need something crazy. JAV and Hentai are NOT real. We all know that. But, again, Japan is structured. In this regard, Japan is harsher than any other country IMO. If you go off the rails a bit, you can't return to society.[if you are an office worker.] One mistake can kill your career for life. So, some Japanese men need something eccentric to stay sane. It's very stressful. The same can be said for S.Korea and China.

 

Koreans, Chinese. They don't forget. Seriously. There are reasons for having highest sucide rates. Who cares about the history now? It's in the past alreay. We all do make mistakes. Things were different back then. Japan was nuked twice by the USA, and yet almost no Japanese hates the USA like ”some” Chinese and Koreans do to us. 

 

My favorite visual kei? X Japan.

[Nyasagi 259]

clear, thank you for explaining, I've always been curious about it and now it makes sense to me. It's good such things exist, so people can have some fun at least.